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Passivity Part 2 Show Notes In this episode of the Motor City Hypnotist Podcast, we are going to talk about passivity and the effects on people and their relationships. And I’m also going to be giving listeners a FREE HYPNOSIS GUIDE! Stay tuned! INTRODUCTION What is up people? The Motor City Hypnotist Podcast is here in the Podcast Detroit, Detroit Studios. Thank you for joining me on this episode of the Motor City Hypnotist Podcast. I am David Wright and with me is my producer Matt Fox. FIND ME: My Website: https://motorcityhypnotist.com/podcast My social media links: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/motorcityhypnotist/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCjjLNcNvSYzfeX0uHqe3gA Twitter: https://twitter.com/motorcityhypno Instagram: motorcityhypno If you would like to contribute financially to the show, you can find me FREE HYPNOSIS GUIDE https://detroithypnotist.convertri.com/podcast-free-hypnosis-guide Please also subscribe to the show and leave a review. (Stay with me as later in the podcast, I’ll be giving away a free gift to all listeners!) TODAYS EPISODE IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY EMPOWER YOUR MIND FOR SUCCESS, A HYPNOTIC GUIDE BOOK. Available soon through Amazon or your local bookstores. WINNER OF THE WEEK; ‘Hero Dog Survives Rattlesnake Bite After Saving His Owner from Snake: ‘My Heart Just Dropped’ https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/good-news/hero-dog-survives-rattlesnake-bite-after-saving-his-owner-from-snake-my-heart-just-dropped/ar-AAL4VRv Passivity Acceptance of what happens, without active response or resistance Client who came to counseling because her husband had withdrawn and isolated. He spent all of his free time playing video games and slept on the sofa because he didn’t want to “disturb” her. She handled all of the household duties (financial, scheduling, child care, cleaning, laundry). She never spoke up or expressed her dissatisfaction because she didn’t want to start a fight This went on for months until one day, he came to her and told her he is seeing someone else. The client became angry, lashing out with insults. However, she eventually started begging, pleading and trying to appease her husband. She said she would do “anything” to save the relationship. She even offered to have an “open relationship” if he would just stay. These behaviors only drove the husband further away. In another example, a couple came to therapy together. The wife had “checked out” because her husband was distant and not involved. Just like the previous example, he spent all of his free time playing video games and hanging out with his buddies. He didn’t acknowledge his wife emotionally and was not involved with any of the household duties. The wife met someone else and asked the husband for a divorce. He reacted by begging and pleading, stating he would change. This reaction is typical with clients I see. One spouse intends to exit the relationship and the other spouse begins a journey of pleading and begging. The message being sent is “I can’t make it without you.” This leads to constant pleading for the partner to come back. Phone calls and texts in a desperate attempt to reconnect. The compulsion to rectify the situation strips the victimized spouse of self-esteem and dignity, causing the victim to grovel and act like a subservient puppy. FACT NUMBER 1; You cannot force your partner to change their behaviors FACT NUMBER 2: You need to work on yourself above anything else. FACT NUMBER 3: Most couples take action too late. Being less passive and more assertive 1. Develop self-confidence We don’t want people not to like us. 2. Value The Other Person 3. Set Boundaries Benefits of being more assertive Your relationships will improve You will feel less stressed You will gain confidence You become less resentful NEXT EPISODE: XXXX Change your thinking, change your life! Laugh hard, run fast, be kind. David R. Wright MA, LPC, CHT The Motor City Hypnotist